The Perfect Humanoid Symbol, 9

When it’s enough to hear someone say “Don’t do that!” to adopt it as a “Do it!”, this may be or may even be not the consequence of mere impatience and poor information and evaluation, alone. Afraid this may stem from conflict, too. If one reacts with the contrary, one is opposing, and one probably considers that which one is opposing somewhat of an enemy. And to think that individuals are born cooperative and willing to help and share in… the tragedy begins when they are refused. When it comes to one’s loyalty, to whom: to those who let you feel welcome or rejected? There’s more than meets the eye in accepting help: the world, the individuals in it, are falling to pieces for lack of someone to listen to them, and accepting help is a form of listening. You have to treasure and foster the drive of a child to help you and cooperate with you, because it is not only moving; it’s priceless: it’s almost the only thing you will ever have. So you had better invest in this the additional responsibility of seeing that you notice when he or she is trying to help you, of unlocking that willingness if stalled, of granting and allowing him or her to find his or her own way to help and share in, and of ensuring he or she is safe while doing it. Why? Because of the repayment for not doing it… Woe betide those you once wanted to help and failed! Woe betide those you once wanted to be with and refused you! So much devastating is our failure to help, to get our help accepted, that we can slide towards hating those we failed to help; so much devastating is our failure to share in, to be accepted within our fellows, that we can slide towards fighting those we wanted to be with. Here’s where too many of our children get thrown out with the bathwater: behind the barricades of hostility no one will sift through the words of the “enemy”, so whatever hard won wisdom and truth will be wasted: fought, forgotten, lost. If suppression conceals betrayal as help, stupidity mistakes help for betrayal.